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Updated: Oct 27, 2023

I'm in a successful marriage, truly. I'm not bragging or anything, I'm just saying. Well, she is fly and we have been rocking for hella long, happy as shit, and our kids are amazing. Fuck it, I'm bragging. Ha! But not in a way that belittles others, more so simply to salute and champion love, and in doing so, my own. Our thing is golden and it's clear to me why. I'm "what makes sense" first, she's emotional first, but neither of us lack the other perspective. It's a healthy blend of both, causing a natural, easy collide without collision.

How do I define "successful marriage", you ask? Hmmm. Easy questions only require easy answers: It feels good, period. I ain't gone hold you.

In the ever-evolving dance of relationships, there are fundamental principles that stand the test of time. At the heart of any lasting partnership lies the simple yet profound concept of liking each other. It's a foundation, a rock upon which all else is built.

When you let someone into your personal space, you want more than just a passing fondness for them; you want a genuine liking. This concept applies from the moment you meet, through courtship, exclusive dating, marriage, and even when you become empty nesters. Liking someone isn't a grand emotional declaration; it's an unpretentious truth. Either you do or you don't, and there's no room for pretense here.

But it doesn't end there. For a relationship to thrive, both individuals must possess a healthy dose of sensibility as well. Emotions, while beautiful, can't always steer the ship. Sometimes, logic needs to take the wheel, charting a course through stormy waters. It's about the delicate balance of heart and mind, where reason steps in to quiet the emotional tempests that may arise.
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However, let's be clear - there's no universal playbook for a successful marriage. Life deals each of us a unique hand, and the factors we face differ greatly. What works for one may not work for another. So, instead of dictating the rules, let me just offer a few nuggets that have stood the test of time for us.

Embrace the Art of Liking: Remember that liking each other is the solid ground beneath your feet. It's not about grand gestures but the everyday appreciation of who your partner is.

Balance Emotion and Logic: Know when to let your heart lead and when to let your head guide you. The sweet spot is where both coexist harmoniously.

Create Your Unique Path: Your relationship is as unique as you are. Don't compare it to others or feel pressured to follow someone else's journey.

Adapt and Evolve: Life is change, and so are relationships. Be open to growth, individually and together.

Communication is Key: Talk openly and honestly. It's the foundation of understanding and connection. When challenges arise, don't shy away from those difficult conversations. Instead, use them as opportunities to strengthen your bond and find common ground.

Appreciate the Small Moments: It's not always about grand gestures or big milestones. Cherish the everyday moments of laughter, shared meals, and quiet nights together.

Support Each Other's Dreams: Encourage your partner's aspirations and be their biggest cheerleader. In doing so, you'll build a relationship that fosters growth and fulfillment for both.

Practice Forgiveness: Mistakes happen, and forgiveness is a powerful tool in any relationship. Learn to let go of grudges and move forward together.

Prioritize Self-Care: Don't forget to take care of yourselves as individuals. When you're at your best, you bring your best self to the relationship.

Celebrate Love: Lastly, remember to celebrate your love regularly. Whether it's through anniversaries, spontaneous surprises, or heartfelt notes, keep the flames of romance alive.
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In the end, participation, and practice really, reminds us that there's no one-size-fits-all approach to a successful marriage. It's about finding what works for you and your partner, navigating life's twists and turns with wisdom, and, above all, cultivating a deep and abiding liking for each other, all while not allowing that glorious feeling to override what you know to be prudent and sound. So, here's to your unique journey of love, filled with random nuggets of wisdom that light the path as you create your own story of lasting love. Peace to the folk. Sincerely, Smirkface; the Lemonade Man

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